I am your breakthrough champion who demystifies trauma and crises because life is about more than solving problems. Life is a journey with many ups and downs as well as detours and exit roads.
Going for counselling can be an unnerving prospect in any situation where you haven’t defined your problem in your own words. The first question you can ask yourself is might I benefit from trying counselling? The answer is an unequivocal YES if you are experiencing one or more of the following awareness:
- The constant feeling of being overwhelmed
- You can’t seem to stop making self-defeating choices
- You might be stuck in a frustrating rut
- You are caught in a place where nothing you’ve done before seems to have helped
- You feel like nobody understands
- You are riding an emotional rollercoaster
- You crave a new perspective
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Chapter by Dr Barbara Louw 2018
Some of the most challenging aspects of ministry are the integrities of human suffering, illness, spirituality, and wholeness in dealing with people who need pastoral mediation and healthcare. Trauma and posttraumatic embitterment can be demystified in a manner that can make a positive difference to the quality of people’s lives. This unique perspective in dealing with victims, survivors and people who become more than conquerors cuts across the fields of crisis management, trauma relief facilitation and pastoral services, with reference to the role of people’s spiritual context in bitterness. Forgiveness and restoration of health are explored to understand the effects of discourses in a wholeness context. To achieve this, a posttraumatic wellness coaching model is utilised.
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Can I be a counsellor?
As a little girl, I wasn’t the kind of person who carried destitute kittens home. I had sympathy for hurting and suffering people. I remember giving away some of my precious toys to children who had no toys.
Years later my childhood compassion translated into the desire to make a more substantial difference in people’s lives. Being a young adult in the transition years to a democratic South Africa created many opportunities to help people. In my book A Sensible Vision I wrote about this particular part of our journey.
Turbulent times and the resulting hardship people endure are now rifer than in the past. In our little country, we have to deal with illnesses, natural and human-induced disasters, water scarcities, poverty, and unemployment. Murders, domestic violence, and crime make it seem as though people gave up on being humane. Healing and wholeness must start on the inside.
My plea is that we leave no one in pain. Our society needs counsellors, victim supporters, and caring people on every level, in every institution. We need well-trained counsellors in every school, church, and community organisation.
One of the first questions people ask during conversations is “Can I be a good counsellor?”. This is a powerful question to ask when you care about people because the answer can expand your horizons. You don’t have to excel at all forms of supporting people because you can focus on the areas that are closest to your caring heart.
I compiled a self-assessment quiz that should give you a guideline for your natural ability to help others.
The team at Kailo Training Institute is committed to supporting learners to complete their studies successfully. We have first-hand experience of the challenges experienced by adult learners, especially the multi-vocational scholars.
Although the programs are presented online, and learners can work asynchronous and at their own pace no one is left to struggle alone. The lecturers are seasoned facilitators who arrange weekly online contact sessions with the learners. The lecturers are involved in the preliminary interviews, the selection process and coaching during the studies and practical work.
The learners receive a grid with all the modules they have to complete and there are additional models to assist with practical aspects such as writing skills and research methods. Even though learners can work at their own pace, there are milestones that they have to reach to ensure that their studies will be completed within the contracted timeframe.
If you are interested in studying with us, you can send an Expression of Interest today. There is a quiz available if you wonder whether you can be a good counsellor. QUIZ.
‘n Stukkie van my hart.
My huis ruk op die oomblik na koffie en kaneel. Wanneer ek die kaneel ruik is daar ‘n plekkie in my hart wat onthou hoe heerlik my ouma Bessie se souskluitjies was. Sy was die enigste mens wat vir my as kleuter nagereg voor die regte kos gegee het.
Geure help ons om unieke dinge te onthou. Goeie en seer herinnering word op verskillende manier in verskillende plekke gestoor.
As helpers bêre ons stukkies van elke kliënt met wie ons werk in ons harte. Na meer as 30 jaar se berading is daar baie kosbare stukkies in my hart bewaar. Dit is daardie stukkies wat in my hart gespaar is wat my herinner om vir my kliënte te bid en om saam met hulle dankbaar te wees. Ek is so dankbaar wanneer jy moed skep en opstaan.
Ek kan al daardie stukkies in my hart bewaar, want elke iedere kliënt het op hulle beurt met ‘n stukkie van my hart weggestap. Die stukkies van ons harte wat ons so deel met mekaar help ons om te onthou om vir mekaar te bid. Die hartsgoed is ‘n ons-saak, want niemand is gemaak om alleen voort te sukkel nie.
Ons kan gewoonlik niks anders met mekaar se hartstukkies doen as om vir mekaar te bid en al die laste en sorge aan ons Hemelse Vader oor te gee nie.
Liewe Nadia, party keer is die laste wat met ons gedeel word so swaar dat ons dit nie kan oordra na God toe nie. Dit is om die tyd om dit oor te rol na Hom toe. Wanneer ek my kliënt se hartseer oorrol na die Here toe bid ek ook dat Hy vir daardie mens presies sal gee wat hulle nodig het.
Ek het geen voorskrif aan God van wat Hy moet doen of wat jy nodig het nie, want ek weet dat Hy allerwys is om vir jou in elke opsig te sorg.
God se genade vat ons verder as wat ooit kan droom.
Ek hoop jy het tyd vir ‘n koppie koffie saam met daardie vriend/in wat jou help lag. Lag soveel dat jou bekommernisse terug in perspektief val.
Geniet die dag.
The many faces of trauma
The popular opinion allows people to see ‘trauma’ as being synonymous with distress or discomfort. The other day I stood in a queue to pay for a pair of shoes when I overheard a lady telling her friend that she was so “traumatized” because another shopper “snatched a bargain from under her nose”.
The haphazard way people are using terms like ‘trauma’ and ‘stress’ gives the impression that they know what they are talking about. Our own biases allow us to assume that we know what they are talking about and we have the answers.
The problem is that as listeners we stop listening with the intent to hear and understand. We stop paying attention to what they are trying to share and why they need to tell that part of their story.
How to get the most out of a counselling session?
You’ve taken the step to schedule your first appointment with Dr Barbara Louw. You may be nervous or worried you might not know what to do when you get to her office or connect online.
You have all these thoughts running through your head like, “Will she judge me? Will she believe me? Can she understand my dilemmas? Will it help?” You consider postponing the appointment, but you’re in a crisis or trying to prevent more trauma.
Returning to counselling after a break
Like any journey, your therapeutic journey may have starts and stops, highs and lows, departures and returns. Sometimes unexpected changes in life force you to pause the counselling and coaching for wellness. Perhaps you wanted a break to focus on another part of your life.
Once you are ready to return to counselling, you might wonder how you should go about it. What should you say to your counsellor? “I’m back” doesn’t feel like enough. The principles and care that brought you to Dr Barbara Louw in the first place are still effective.
Ultimately, your counsellor is not going to judge or reprimand you for taking a break.