Going for counselling can be an unnerving prospect in any situation where you haven’t defined your problem in your own words. The first question you can ask yourself is might I benefit from trying counselling? The answer is an unequivocal YES if you are experiencing one or more of the following awarenesses:
- The constant feeling of being overwhelmed
- You can’t seem to stop making self-defeating choices
- You might be stuck in a frustrating rut
- You are caught in a place where nothing you’ve done before seems to have helped
- You feeling like nobody understands
- You are riding an emotional rollercoaster
- You craving a new perspective
- You need someone to really listen, without prejudice or any preconceived agenda.
- You find that your self-esteem isn’t what it could be and you feel fragile
- You are aware that relationships could be better than they are at this stage in your life
- You are often getting comments from friends and family encouraging you to get help
- You are exhausted of acting strong all the time
- You are ready to take responsibility for your life
Sometimes the client gets the courage to acknowledge that they need help in a specific area of their lives, but then they feel fainthearted and don’t follow through on that decision. Why do you cancel plans at the last moment?
- You may be too exhausted to face the world
- You are too tired to pretend to be okay
- You are struggling and don’t want to burden you with their problems
- You feel overwhelmed by the challenges of the moment
- You worry that you will have an outburst or meltdown and upset everyone
- You are on the edge and can’t cope with being in a situation that’s not in your control
I am passionate about helping people to put the trauma behind them by walk gently in their lives. I know that I spent a brief moment in a client’s life and that all wounds are not visible. I do as much as possible to create a safe place to talk through life challenges such as breakups, grief, parenting difficulties, or family struggles. It is time to be well and whole.
I help you to cope by, assisting you to keep a sense of perspective amid your reality. We also the following together:
- Look for solutions in problem saturated situations
- Find balance practicality and spiritual wellbeing
- Practical guidance when fear and trauma reactions show up
- Improve your relationships and your ability to communicate
- Discover the best options rather than being paralysed by perfectionism
This helping relationship is going to be time-limited as far as the problem saturated situation is concerned. You will come to a stage where you realize that you can cope. You know you are starting to heal when you start to look beyond the grief, stress and anxiety and realize the following:
- You fill your cup – can breathe and have faith that God is guiding you through
- You create healthy boundaries
- You feel whole and complete in brokenness
- It is okay to take a break
- You know not everyone will support you and you continue healing anyway
- Your faith is anchored and stronger
- You are patient knowing that change doesn’t happen overnight
Let us create a trusting relationship to assist you to get the right kind of help.
If you need counselling it is for a season.
Easy appointments via online booking systems with the secure payment portal. You complete your intake and agreement forms before appointments to eliminate wasting your time.
The online booking system is on Aquilla Wellness Solutions' site on www.aquillasa.co.za
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People need ways to express themselves freely and spontaneously, without the anxiety of being analysed.
Children learn naturally and most effectively through play.
“The therapeutic value of art and play” is my latest online workshop for teachers, parents, counsellors and people who enjoyed being kids. We look at the value of spontaneous play and art-making, as well as the value of folk art in our communities. This workshop will give you a new perspective on how valuable art, craft and play can be without burdening anyone for an artificial outcome. We explore spontaneous art and natural play; handicraft; folk art and culture as tools of self-expression and creativity, leading to healing, learning and wholesome pleasure.
This online workshop will also be presented in English and Afrikaans on Aquilla Training’s website, in collaboration with Inter Trauma Nexus and Aquilla Wellness Solutions. You can enrol for the workshop at your convenience and complete the workshop in your own time.
Price R 400-. Length 5-6 hours. Due to the COVID-19 lockdown, the CPD/CPTD points are negotiated, but still pending.
Aquilla Training’s online workshop library is growing at a steady rate, as we add at least two online workshops per month. We help you to stay up-to-date which gives you the confidence of knowing you are working with best practices.
You are being supported within our caring and supportive learning environment from which you can develop and grow. You can access your learning anytime you want ... anywhere you choose ... using any device type — desktop or mobile. The online workshops can be accessed at any time - 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and 365 days a year.
After the workshop was published you can enrol at any time and work at your own pace. No unreasonable deadlines or other limitations. This means professionals can accumulate CPD points - no travel and accommodation required. Certificates are downloadable when you completed the final workshop assessment.
Some of the popular topics available online are:
Support in a disaster (COVID-19 pandemic support) 52 short sessions - FREE!
Miscarriage and stillbirth (NEW – soon to be released)
Burning Infertility (NEW – soon to be released)
Wisdom for ministry – weekly sessions for Association for Christian Ministries (A4CM)
Ondersteuning ten tye van ‘n ramp (COVID-19 pandemie) 52 – kort sessies - GRATIS!
Miskraam en stilgeboorte (NUUT – word binne kort vrygestel)
Brandende onvrugbaarheid (NUUT – word binne kort vrygestel)
Wysheid vir bediening – weeklikse sessies vir A4CM
We are introducing regular live online events on counselling and practice management topics. The links for the regular events will require you to register so that we can update our faithful clients, prospective students and friends with new theories, sharpen your skillset and balance ethics, law and self-care.
The World Health Organization reports that “Close to 800 000 people die due to suicide every year, which is one person every 40 seconds. Suicide is a global phenomenon and occurs throughout the lifespan. Effective and evidence-based interventions can be implemented at population, sub-population and individual levels to prevent suicide and suicide attempts. There are indications that for each adult who died by suicide there may have been more than 20 others attempting suicide”.
It is reported that in South Africa 9 per cent of all teen deaths are caused by suicide. The fastest-growing age is young people under the age of 35, specifically female suicides which peak between 15 to 19 years.
Some counsellor prefers not to use the term suicide, but rather self-harm. Self-harm is then defined as an act of deliberate self-poisoning or self-injury, regardless of motivation, and self-harm mortality is a death resulting from such an act.
Youth are at risk because they face a number of social, economic and health challenges that contribute to self-harm behaviours, including the emotional and mental stress associated with high unemployment rates, poverty, HIV/AIDS, educational difficulties, physical and emotional abuse, parental separation and substance abuse.
Going for counselling can be a daunting prospect, especially when you are sitting in a problem-saturated situation. My clients often start the conversation with stating that they “don’t even know where to start”.
The good news is that there is no correct or wrong place to start our conversation. The fact that you made your appointment is already a leap in the right direction. Coming to get the guidance, support or counselling takes courage and determination to become well.
In the centre of the circular diagram is the crisis point where you experience unwellness is as an uncomfortable or even unbearable burden. Each client has a unique perception of his or her crisis point. This crisis point can be the result of a single overwhelming incident or a series of traumatic experiences.
My Wholistic Wellness Coaching Model allows you to work towards solutions on the different levels where the unwellness manifests. Some clients need guidance in one or two areas, while others’ steadily build wellness in every area.
The good news is that you can become whole and well. Counselling and coaching is not a one-size-fits-all approach, but this model gives you the opportunity to assess where you are at a moment in your life and then plan which areas need healing, breakthroughs and enhancement.
When you make an appointment, you Book your online or in-person appointment then get the forms before your appointment and this diagram gives you a clear indication of the goals in the coaching process. No more uncertainty of where to start.
The coaching model allows you to work with your exceptional story; set you unique solutions focused goals in order to achieve greater wellbeing – after each session.
In my research, this model was started as a Posttraumatic Wellness Coaching Model for people who were struggling with posttraumatic reactions, such as bitterness, resentment and deep-seated embitterment. Superficial theories of 'just quickly forgive' are as counterproductive as forcing fighting siblings to 'kiss and make-up'. This model is a tool that enables you to seek solutions, leave harmful attitudes behind and grow towards lasting healing and forgiveness.
As the model developed, the model became useful for coaching people of all ages and in various settings, including the workplace, family, school and church environments
Die model, beradingsessies en werkswinkels is beskikbaar in Afrikaans.
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